Times Change
Apr. 8th, 2012 11:11 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
Seems like a lot has changed over the 15 odd years I've considered myself part of the furry fandom. In the old days if the Londonfur meets, I used to know pretty much everyone who attended and likewise, most people knew who I was. These days, I don't know the majority of furs who attend the Londonfur meets and even if I put on a conbadge, the only people who know me at meets are those from times of old. I suppose what I have to realise is that I'm just not as popular as I used to be. That said, I don't know what I did to gain popularity back in the day but it did seem that even people I hadn't met before had heard of me. I should be content with how things are but I do miss the times when I had lots of people to talk to.
I suppose it's ironic that I know or have known so many people but I could only count a very small number of them to be actual friends who I can chat with freely. I'd really like to have better friendships with the people I know as I suppose it can feel rather lonely at times. I would initiate conversations with folk I used to know but I don't know what to say or why we stopped talking in the first place. Maybe it's something I've done or someone I've associated with that's changed people's opinions of me or maybe people have just moved on.
Anyway, I'm not really sure what the point of this post is, so I'll wrap it up now. But what would be nice would be for people to let me know that they'd still like to keep in contact with me, it'd be nice to get in touch with more people again :)
I suppose it's ironic that I know or have known so many people but I could only count a very small number of them to be actual friends who I can chat with freely. I'd really like to have better friendships with the people I know as I suppose it can feel rather lonely at times. I would initiate conversations with folk I used to know but I don't know what to say or why we stopped talking in the first place. Maybe it's something I've done or someone I've associated with that's changed people's opinions of me or maybe people have just moved on.
Anyway, I'm not really sure what the point of this post is, so I'll wrap it up now. But what would be nice would be for people to let me know that they'd still like to keep in contact with me, it'd be nice to get in touch with more people again :)
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Date: 2012-04-08 10:44 pm (UTC)I'd certainly like to stay in touch!
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Date: 2012-04-08 11:08 pm (UTC)That said, I'm glad to keep in contact. I just need a nudge myself once in a while. :)
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Date: 2012-04-09 09:40 am (UTC)Don't think I have you on any messengers, would be handy to chat a bit more if you're online :)
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Date: 2012-04-09 11:21 am (UTC)Yeah, that's me alright... small amount of time, only so much of me to go around! My contact details are all on my profile here on LJ, although it's mainly MSN that I use (Which uses my main email addy too).
Feel free to drop me a line!
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Date: 2012-04-09 02:19 am (UTC)*hugs*
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Date: 2012-04-09 05:44 am (UTC)It's been quite some time since I was in Southampton and all that jazz, I still see you as a friend!
Having been in the fandom 12/13 years, I do feel out of sync with meets, especially the Manchester meets or just general Northern Fur ones and these days being here in Germany has halted that, people do seem to know but but again it's only the guys I remember from the times I used to attend, I'll get the VERY occasional 'oh it's -you-' but even then the majority of folks don't remember me until I break out the art book *facepalms*
Also I sympathize with you feeling lonely, I get it alot here, I live with the people I work with, hardly any furries around, tends to end up me and my internet most of the time.
But yes sliding back onto topic, I for one would like to keep in contact and perhaps get to know you better!
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Date: 2012-04-09 09:45 am (UTC)Where can I chat to you online anyway? I've never seen you about :P
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Date: 2012-04-09 04:26 pm (UTC)Cheers!
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Date: 2012-04-09 03:43 pm (UTC)It doesn't help that we are older and... more battle scarred than we used to be. I just had a wonderful weekend with a couple of old timers but generally I actually feel a bit cagey at London meets these days.
So yes, keep in touch! Us grey muzzles need to stick together. In was even thinking that we should have a "blast from the past" at the ye old London at some point.
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