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[slycat]

My Dad just asked me "Do you know who Sylvester is?". I'm fairly certain he does, I mean remember the fursuit? Anyway, I reply "No". He says "It was sent to sylvester@my old claranet address". I said just to delete it... I don't know what the message said but I don't really want to know.

Furry is a really stilly thing to explain to your parents. You should never need to explain it. Especially when it isn't really a big part of my life. True, I've met many interesting people and made many good friends but I don't see it as something you need to explain to your parents. It's just a hobby to me if anything.

Bleh! Why are people using an email address which is like about 3+ years old?!

Comments

[tktiger.livejournal.com]

At first I just said that TK was my internet handel and so peeps might get phone calls asking for TK instead of me. I let my folks get used to the idea of furry slowly so I could get away with more furry things around the room, like the artwork I have framed and my fursuits.
They think it's just a kind of Live Action Role Play thing where I have made various friends who prefer to use our Internet names. Keeps life simple that way - they don't really -want- to know more.

[xendragon.livejournal.com]

Charli and i might be asking you about that kinda stuff in the near future :)

[nomadfox.livejournal.com]

I'v never been bothered to mention theres a furryfandom and that I'm a member of it to my folks.If they ever asked me directly I'd tell them about it thoue, But honestly its not that important. However they know what I draw and they know about the illustration projects I'v done. For the trips to america I told them the truth,it was a holiday and I was meeting various friends ^,^ I also mentioned that I was going to an art Con in philli. Its all they need to know isn't it? :)when mom came to visit I showed her the AC photo's. Oh, they also know my nick is Nomad ^,^

everyone's situations are different thoue anyhoo.:P

[mi1ez.livejournal.com]

Dude.. what you need is a good slap in the face to snap you out of it. You're making too big a deal out of something as insignificant in the course of life as having hung around 'furries.'

For Christ's sake.. my mom's known I'm around furries for ALL of the 10 years that I've ever known this group. :P

Simply put--get over it. :P Mention furries. Just say, 'I'm goin' out to hang around with some furries.' If they ask, 'What's 'furries?' You explain it in your own words.. but something like that might work, "It's a fandom that revolves around anthropomoprhic stuff. You know what Trekkies are, right? Well.. there's fandoms for just about anything these days. Star Trek.. Transformers.. hell, they have a fandom out there for those cartoony animals that talk, walk and so on.. ala Disneyesque cartoons and such. I'm gonna hang around with a group now. Seeya later!"

And that's it. Get over it, already. :P You're making ME feel like putting words in your mouth to make you feel at-ease about something so banal in your life. :) It's not like you're gonna go shoot up drugs or ruin your life in some way. Furrydom isn't some religious cult. And it's most certainly not going to ruin your life (unless you're intending to be a Disney animator or something... and even then.. ) heheh

I know I'm ranting.. it's what I do. Pay no attention to me if I'm being annoying. :) Be well! Ciao!

--Miles.. the guy who doesn't even like calling himself a furry--yet hangs around with the furries and draws furries. Go fig. ;)

[slycat.livejournal.com]

Huh? Asking me what?

[slycat.livejournal.com]

My parents know nothing. They know I own a fursuit "because I liked it" but that's about it. They don't even know about AC! I've not had the guts to show them my photos. I just don't like awkward questions...

[slycat.livejournal.com]

You gotta realise that I've kept this a secret for 5 years now. Well I've known about furry for about 5 years, had a fursuit of some kind for around 3.5 years and have been actively participting in fur meets for just over 3 years. If I just came out and said, "By the way, whenever I say I'm going to London to meet up with friends I know from the internet, I mean I'm meeting up with other 'furries'.", they'd wonder why I had kept it secret for so long and get even more suspicious.

They understand that I'm old enough to take care of myself and it's up to me if I want to go off meeting strangers off the internet but they just take it to be a social thing. In all honesty, it is a social thing. Meeting up with with friends of similar interests for a few pints and then going shopping, playing games, etc.

My point is that a) I don't like awkward questions and b) I've been keeping it secret for so long now, I've dug myself a pretty deep hole that's hard to get out of.

[mi1ez.livejournal.com]

I still don't quite see how it'd be a hard thing to explain. After all, you've not really kept it so much a SECRET if they know you have a suit and stuff. And if they've not seen it.. maybe one of these days you can just take it with you and if they happen to see if, you can matter-of-factedly explain that you hang around with a mascot-suiting crowd of people that call themselves fursuiters. What's the big deal? :P

And regarding awkward questions.. like what kind of questions? I don't see how they can't figure it out for themselves. :)

[catbunny.livejournal.com]

What's the big deal?
Because not everyone is forthright and accepting of such things. I'm going into the story that's been mentioned quite a fair few times now, and though it has nothing to do with parents, it's still a pretty valid argument for keeping quiet about somthing like furry.

Whilst I was living in Manchester, I went over to visit my grandparents for New Year. When I get back, I find the locks to my flat have been changed, and I wonder what the fuck's occuring, so I head off to a mates place and ask if I could crash there. I later find out that my pleasant ex-flatmate found a small stash of 'dubious' furry material (Vixens with norks out, no less) and promptly came to the conclusion that I fucked animals, systematically destroyed/sold everything I owned, and spread this malicious rumour to everyone I knew.

I've only recently plucked up enough courage to go back to Manchester. Telling people you are a furry is all well and good, but not everyone understands. (For instance, I told my brother about five years ago, he shouted how I fucked animals, I had to half strangle him to death before I could make him listen to what I had to say.)

Thankyou for listening.

[slycat.livejournal.com]

Thanks for that. I just hear about how it can go wrong for some people and through not saying anything, I'm avoiding that possibility. I like the way things are with my parents even if I have to hide some things. I don't feel a need to tell them so I won't and life will continue as normal.

As a thanks, how about a bit of nostalgia?



Gotta love the perspective :D

[mi1ez.livejournal.com]

I'm not saying you should go all-out and exclaim that you're furry to the world. But I *AM* saying that I wouldn't keep it a secret. Part of the problem with your story is probably the fact that you never DID mention furries to them and have the chance to even properly introduce it to them at all and even explain to them the fact that it's about anthropomorphism and that there's a subculture of it that tends to have an anthropomorphic fetish. It's pretty different from outright zoophilia because it has nothing to do with actually DOING anything, for one, and secondly with REAL ANIMALS.

But digressing from that particular point.. the act of hiding it only makes it that much more severe when an unexpected element of your furry fanship comes up and THEN you make it a much more difficult situation to have to explain or deal with. The story you gave illustrates my point better than I think it illustrated your own.

If nothing else proves it.. take the fact that I've been out to California to live on my own amongst the furries of Silicon Valley.. I had let my mother KNOW that I was going to sleep over the house of a one of my furry friends for a while 'till I got my own apartment and lived on my own... and she's Catholic and VERY religious, kind of a political conservative and she's of the VERY old-fashioned opinions when it comes to sex and such. (Mind you, I tend to be a lot like her in those three regards, too. :) But she KNOWS I've been involved in the furry crowd for all this time and that I've been pretty happy.. and I've ALWAYS let her know that there was this big subculture of weird fetishes. She knows.. and, in fact, we both kind of find it amusing more than anything. I think that there's a lot of trust there and the understanding that people will be people and sex is an obsession with lots of them.

So now.. when weirdness pops up about furries.. it's not a big deal. She can still seem surprised about stuff--but considering what she's been told by me, it's not as shocking. :)

Blahblahblah--I'll stop now. That's just my two more cents. :)